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Are you high or are you low?
2024-10-17
It's not easy being a man. I figured this out a long time ago because I grew up with two brothers and a father, including a sister and mom, and it permitted me to experience first-hand to living with both sexes under one roof. Being an only child is an entirely different kettle of fish, I know, but so is coping with multiple bodies all managing not to kill each other, living under one roof.
We men and women are different from one another, at least in terms of body maintenance. I say this with a measure of hesitancy because in this modern day and age, we have among us our metrosexuals and trans-women who deserve credit for the degree of care that goes into their appearance. But so do men, that is, when it comes to putting in effort to maintain their bodies, from hairstyles to working out religiously, as in frequency and dedication. There are some men that I've personally known who work in the construction industry who spend a small fortune to ensure that their pedicures and manicures are carried out by professionals every six weeks, and this also includes waxing. How very enticing and sexy of men to adopt these modern practices. I say thank you!
Esthetic services carried out by salons, some high-priced and others bargain-basement may be worth your time, effort and money, depending on your views toward body maintenance. I used to have a private esthetician who was a magician, until that is her life situation changed for the worse, forcing her to re-locate. Since then I've never been able to find anyone as skilled as her when it comes to a pedicure, facial, manicure or waxing. It's not a mystery at all that we change. As individuals, our needs and desires evolve regularly, and these changes appear to be more noticeable every decade. When I was in my twenties and thirties, and given the era, I didn't give one thought to doling out money for esthetic services. I would simply take care of these needs myself. But as I evolved, I clued in to the fact that I'm deserving of these luxuries, to be pampered, to float off the floor as my newly buffed, shined and polished toes and fingernails, and my glowing skin were made ready for my next male encounter. Like I said... when I was in my 20s and 30s. Back then, men of this era really didn't notice whether you had shelled out coin to enhance your looks because they were more focused on body features, which is to say they were quite happy seeing our bodies bare with zero clothing.
Professionals are professionals for a reason. Your hard-earned dollars are spent in such a myriad of ways, from paying rent, car, gas, groceries and taxes up the kazoo, that very little is actually assigned for the ongoing maintenance of your body. After all, when you think about it, you pour money into your vehicle and house for regular maintenance, to include on-going upkeep, which should easily justify doing the same for your body. I should know, at this stage of my life, to be ready and willing to stretch my beleaguered pocket book and dole out cash for these services. And yet, I've gone the opposite route - to handle these services on my own; the one exception being massage therapy. I'll hire a professional because it's difficult to give myself a massage, unless I've got a knot in my shoulders, in which case I keep at home a percussion massager that allows me to work through the pain. The ideal is to have a massage therapist who leaves you feeling better, rather than for your body to have more aches added to its current pain.
Rarely do I regret how, when and why I've spent my money. But now things have changed, owing to the cost of pretty much everything having doubled and tripled, to include esthetic services. In my fair City of Ottawa, a pedicure by a reputable salon that utilizes an auto-clave to clean instruments using high heat (450 degrees F.) means you'll shell out easily $160 before taxes and tip, and this would be considered bargain-basement prices where I live vs say a high profile city like New York or Los Angeles, where pockets are a little deeper. I handle my own pedicures now and pocket the money, to spend what I've saved on other priority items like premium gin or vodka or a really nice Pinot Noir. Mmmm.... Pinot!
I don't consider myself to be a high-maintenance woman, not in the strict sense of how a man might regard dating young women. Some women need to be doted on with dinners and jewels and expensive shoes and clothing. They expect their man to shell out for them on an ongoing basis, to pick up the tab at restaurants. I don't subscribe to this philosophy. Most recently I watched a short vid on IG. A man was encouraging men to cover her restaurant meal and his reason was 'because women spend a lot of money on their make-up and clothing.' His rationale for doing so was an interesting justification. To me, however, these are choices women make. Rather, I prefer we each pay our own, to split a restaurant bill, and providing we've both agreed on the location. I suppose there's also a part of me that doesn't blame women for wanting this from their man, if he's willing and financially able to cover costs of restaurants or even body maintenance. I just don't personally believe in it because I know the cost involved. It's an expectation that for me borders on presumptuousness.
I pride myself on being an independent woman and I wouldn't dream of having him pay my expenses. This would therefore qualify me as a low-maintenance woman. There I said it. I'm happy I said it. I'm probably not setting a good example for the high-maintenance women of this world. In all honesty, I think for some men being able to afford a high-maintenance woman is there version of showing off to their buddies that they can afford to keep the costly gals in their life.
To each their own, I say.
We men and women are different from one another, at least in terms of body maintenance. I say this with a measure of hesitancy because in this modern day and age, we have among us our metrosexuals and trans-women who deserve credit for the degree of care that goes into their appearance. But so do men, that is, when it comes to putting in effort to maintain their bodies, from hairstyles to working out religiously, as in frequency and dedication. There are some men that I've personally known who work in the construction industry who spend a small fortune to ensure that their pedicures and manicures are carried out by professionals every six weeks, and this also includes waxing. How very enticing and sexy of men to adopt these modern practices. I say thank you!
Esthetic services carried out by salons, some high-priced and others bargain-basement may be worth your time, effort and money, depending on your views toward body maintenance. I used to have a private esthetician who was a magician, until that is her life situation changed for the worse, forcing her to re-locate. Since then I've never been able to find anyone as skilled as her when it comes to a pedicure, facial, manicure or waxing. It's not a mystery at all that we change. As individuals, our needs and desires evolve regularly, and these changes appear to be more noticeable every decade. When I was in my twenties and thirties, and given the era, I didn't give one thought to doling out money for esthetic services. I would simply take care of these needs myself. But as I evolved, I clued in to the fact that I'm deserving of these luxuries, to be pampered, to float off the floor as my newly buffed, shined and polished toes and fingernails, and my glowing skin were made ready for my next male encounter. Like I said... when I was in my 20s and 30s. Back then, men of this era really didn't notice whether you had shelled out coin to enhance your looks because they were more focused on body features, which is to say they were quite happy seeing our bodies bare with zero clothing.
Professionals are professionals for a reason. Your hard-earned dollars are spent in such a myriad of ways, from paying rent, car, gas, groceries and taxes up the kazoo, that very little is actually assigned for the ongoing maintenance of your body. After all, when you think about it, you pour money into your vehicle and house for regular maintenance, to include on-going upkeep, which should easily justify doing the same for your body. I should know, at this stage of my life, to be ready and willing to stretch my beleaguered pocket book and dole out cash for these services. And yet, I've gone the opposite route - to handle these services on my own; the one exception being massage therapy. I'll hire a professional because it's difficult to give myself a massage, unless I've got a knot in my shoulders, in which case I keep at home a percussion massager that allows me to work through the pain. The ideal is to have a massage therapist who leaves you feeling better, rather than for your body to have more aches added to its current pain.
Rarely do I regret how, when and why I've spent my money. But now things have changed, owing to the cost of pretty much everything having doubled and tripled, to include esthetic services. In my fair City of Ottawa, a pedicure by a reputable salon that utilizes an auto-clave to clean instruments using high heat (450 degrees F.) means you'll shell out easily $160 before taxes and tip, and this would be considered bargain-basement prices where I live vs say a high profile city like New York or Los Angeles, where pockets are a little deeper. I handle my own pedicures now and pocket the money, to spend what I've saved on other priority items like premium gin or vodka or a really nice Pinot Noir. Mmmm.... Pinot!
I don't consider myself to be a high-maintenance woman, not in the strict sense of how a man might regard dating young women. Some women need to be doted on with dinners and jewels and expensive shoes and clothing. They expect their man to shell out for them on an ongoing basis, to pick up the tab at restaurants. I don't subscribe to this philosophy. Most recently I watched a short vid on IG. A man was encouraging men to cover her restaurant meal and his reason was 'because women spend a lot of money on their make-up and clothing.' His rationale for doing so was an interesting justification. To me, however, these are choices women make. Rather, I prefer we each pay our own, to split a restaurant bill, and providing we've both agreed on the location. I suppose there's also a part of me that doesn't blame women for wanting this from their man, if he's willing and financially able to cover costs of restaurants or even body maintenance. I just don't personally believe in it because I know the cost involved. It's an expectation that for me borders on presumptuousness.
I pride myself on being an independent woman and I wouldn't dream of having him pay my expenses. This would therefore qualify me as a low-maintenance woman. There I said it. I'm happy I said it. I'm probably not setting a good example for the high-maintenance women of this world. In all honesty, I think for some men being able to afford a high-maintenance woman is there version of showing off to their buddies that they can afford to keep the costly gals in their life.
To each their own, I say.
