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The rollercoaster of emotions
2025-11-18
Doesn't the Christmas season make you feel all warm and fuzzy? Doesn't the notion of holidays make you want to jump into your jammies with full feet and laze about the living room with your loved one or a new book? I have these feelings, too, like everyone, only I'm not currently in the throws of a relationship, and haven't been for some time. If I was in one, I might be rolling my eyes, thinking about how stressed we each are, my man and his issues and me with mine.
So, last week, while speaking with a colleague over the phone, I wanted to wish them happy holidays but thought better of it, because we're still in the month of November, yet the spin-up of holiday marketing is now in full swing, owing to Remembrance Day having come and gone. I kept our conversation light, and then my colleague made mention of her feelings. "I don't care for this time of year. It's too busy with too much to do. Work is one last-minute panic after another."
Been there. Done that. Seems unavoidable.
My colleague spoke her truth, and this sentiment is shared by many. Christmas is often too much for too many people. We're expected to cover off all pending deadlines and demands before the New Year, which for most companies in Canada means that year-end takes place on December 31st and that invoices have to be coded, reconciled and monies paid out. A joke of flippancy that I typically express when I'm told, "I need this right away... as soon as possible," is to retort with, "Thankfully I never hear this, not ever in my day."
Never pass up on an opportunity to express sarcasm. It's breaks up the day.
End of year means balancing budgets and preparing budgets for review for the coming new year. It means extra hours for many who work overtime at the busiest time of year, in order to make those extra dollars so that little Mikey can have his $500 Play Station 5Pro, which runs at about $700 CDN. That's surely nothing to sneeze at because back in the day when I shelled out coin for my nephew and niece for Nintendo, it was relatively near the same price range but it felt like my money spent farther, than it does in this day and age. Now, when I visit the grocery store and I fill up two paper bags with groceries, as I do each Thursday, the cost came to $60.99 and I didn't buy any meat. The largest expense was six heads of romaine lettuce and a jar of pumpkin seed butter. Seriously.
There is a great deal of stress heaped upon us mere mortals. If you add into the mix the beginnings of a new new relationship, well my friends you're in for a snootful of challenges, and potential disappointment. Getting a new relationship off the ground is just as difficult as keeping a relationship on the straight and narrow. In the beginning, you have to deal with the erratic behaviour of both persons, their day-to-day worries and future expectations for the liaison. Don't pull the 100% wool sweater over your eyes just yet, although you may want to afterward. Because if you believe that there will be zero bumps along the way to establishing a new relationship, clearly you are in need of re-evaluation. I haven't dated in the last few years, and I've arrived at that point when I'm not missing what I don't have. I thought I was going to loose my marbles during the pandemic, until it dawned on me that individuality is an awesome space in which to clear you heart, mind and overall wellbeing.
It's good to be close with loved ones at this festive time of year. It's not always good to have to deal with the ever-changing moods of frazzled brains, trying to cope with too many demands, over and above taking into consideration the feelings of a new relationship. The thing is that people are not machines and our moods are designed by nature to oscillate like a seesaw, up and down, up and down. Now he's on top and you're on the bottom. Now you're on top and he's on the bottom. Each time you hit bottom, you bump your rump, push off with your legs to bring yourself back up again. This is the reason why many relish being able to enjoy the freedom as a single person, to imbibe with friends, to get together at the last minute. Me too. I love the freedom of being non-itinerant and I strive for this every year, during the festive season.
Perhaps you are one of the lucky ones who has begun a new relationship that you feel is the cat's meow. I say all the more power to you. Keep in mind, however, that the state of limerence, when you feel only the best toward each other, and see only the best, this may and for some will invariably fade after the holidays are over. Then one of you will have to be the hero. One of you will have to extend the second chance or give the benefit of the doubt. One of you will have to be patient and wait for the other to pull their head out of their proverbial. Admittedly, I haven't always been good at this, to be patient. I like to think now, however, that I've evolved to hold back on letting my temper flare when the going gets too busy, more so at this time of year.
You see... this delicate balance of establishing a rapport with a new individual in your life is like trying to pluck the wings off a moving butterfly. (Don't do this, by the way. I'm merely using this clunky metaphor to accentuate the difficulty in navigating the emotions of someone else). So, think of it this way. Firstly, you don't want to destroy the butterfly but every time you move closer to it, the delicate insect will flutter away, leaving you scratching your head. The worst of it all is the lust. Lusk is a f*cker. Your lust will cloud your thinking, and take you down a hurried path, if you push this agenda too early, which is precisely what we do as human beings. I hate the fact that I lust for men constantly. I hate that I only lust for men. Maybe it'd be easier if I lusted for both sexes, though this isn't the case with me. I'm stuck with my lust for men, which means I've experienced a load of disappointment, as I'm sure I've disappointed plenty in return, and this should naturally lead you to conclude that you've got more disappointment coming down the pike. Why? Because of being filled with lust, not just for a warm body, a mind that considers your needs, and intimate dealings, but we also lust for advancement in our lives, and this doesn't necessarily translate into what your new squeeze may want.
There are no easy answers. There are baked goods, and fast and easy drinks, Christmas sweaters, late dinners and far too many heavy meals.
If relationships were easy, everybody would be blissful all the time. So, to begin a new relationship during the festive season, when there'll be family-associated events, and the stress of meeting new people... all I can say is to take your time. Be patient. Try not to take things too personally.
Indulge a little in an Irish cream on the rocks, and see where the festive mood takes you.
So, last week, while speaking with a colleague over the phone, I wanted to wish them happy holidays but thought better of it, because we're still in the month of November, yet the spin-up of holiday marketing is now in full swing, owing to Remembrance Day having come and gone. I kept our conversation light, and then my colleague made mention of her feelings. "I don't care for this time of year. It's too busy with too much to do. Work is one last-minute panic after another."
Been there. Done that. Seems unavoidable.
My colleague spoke her truth, and this sentiment is shared by many. Christmas is often too much for too many people. We're expected to cover off all pending deadlines and demands before the New Year, which for most companies in Canada means that year-end takes place on December 31st and that invoices have to be coded, reconciled and monies paid out. A joke of flippancy that I typically express when I'm told, "I need this right away... as soon as possible," is to retort with, "Thankfully I never hear this, not ever in my day."
Never pass up on an opportunity to express sarcasm. It's breaks up the day.
End of year means balancing budgets and preparing budgets for review for the coming new year. It means extra hours for many who work overtime at the busiest time of year, in order to make those extra dollars so that little Mikey can have his $500 Play Station 5Pro, which runs at about $700 CDN. That's surely nothing to sneeze at because back in the day when I shelled out coin for my nephew and niece for Nintendo, it was relatively near the same price range but it felt like my money spent farther, than it does in this day and age. Now, when I visit the grocery store and I fill up two paper bags with groceries, as I do each Thursday, the cost came to $60.99 and I didn't buy any meat. The largest expense was six heads of romaine lettuce and a jar of pumpkin seed butter. Seriously.
There is a great deal of stress heaped upon us mere mortals. If you add into the mix the beginnings of a new new relationship, well my friends you're in for a snootful of challenges, and potential disappointment. Getting a new relationship off the ground is just as difficult as keeping a relationship on the straight and narrow. In the beginning, you have to deal with the erratic behaviour of both persons, their day-to-day worries and future expectations for the liaison. Don't pull the 100% wool sweater over your eyes just yet, although you may want to afterward. Because if you believe that there will be zero bumps along the way to establishing a new relationship, clearly you are in need of re-evaluation. I haven't dated in the last few years, and I've arrived at that point when I'm not missing what I don't have. I thought I was going to loose my marbles during the pandemic, until it dawned on me that individuality is an awesome space in which to clear you heart, mind and overall wellbeing.
It's good to be close with loved ones at this festive time of year. It's not always good to have to deal with the ever-changing moods of frazzled brains, trying to cope with too many demands, over and above taking into consideration the feelings of a new relationship. The thing is that people are not machines and our moods are designed by nature to oscillate like a seesaw, up and down, up and down. Now he's on top and you're on the bottom. Now you're on top and he's on the bottom. Each time you hit bottom, you bump your rump, push off with your legs to bring yourself back up again. This is the reason why many relish being able to enjoy the freedom as a single person, to imbibe with friends, to get together at the last minute. Me too. I love the freedom of being non-itinerant and I strive for this every year, during the festive season.
Perhaps you are one of the lucky ones who has begun a new relationship that you feel is the cat's meow. I say all the more power to you. Keep in mind, however, that the state of limerence, when you feel only the best toward each other, and see only the best, this may and for some will invariably fade after the holidays are over. Then one of you will have to be the hero. One of you will have to extend the second chance or give the benefit of the doubt. One of you will have to be patient and wait for the other to pull their head out of their proverbial. Admittedly, I haven't always been good at this, to be patient. I like to think now, however, that I've evolved to hold back on letting my temper flare when the going gets too busy, more so at this time of year.
You see... this delicate balance of establishing a rapport with a new individual in your life is like trying to pluck the wings off a moving butterfly. (Don't do this, by the way. I'm merely using this clunky metaphor to accentuate the difficulty in navigating the emotions of someone else). So, think of it this way. Firstly, you don't want to destroy the butterfly but every time you move closer to it, the delicate insect will flutter away, leaving you scratching your head. The worst of it all is the lust. Lusk is a f*cker. Your lust will cloud your thinking, and take you down a hurried path, if you push this agenda too early, which is precisely what we do as human beings. I hate the fact that I lust for men constantly. I hate that I only lust for men. Maybe it'd be easier if I lusted for both sexes, though this isn't the case with me. I'm stuck with my lust for men, which means I've experienced a load of disappointment, as I'm sure I've disappointed plenty in return, and this should naturally lead you to conclude that you've got more disappointment coming down the pike. Why? Because of being filled with lust, not just for a warm body, a mind that considers your needs, and intimate dealings, but we also lust for advancement in our lives, and this doesn't necessarily translate into what your new squeeze may want.
There are no easy answers. There are baked goods, and fast and easy drinks, Christmas sweaters, late dinners and far too many heavy meals.
If relationships were easy, everybody would be blissful all the time. So, to begin a new relationship during the festive season, when there'll be family-associated events, and the stress of meeting new people... all I can say is to take your time. Be patient. Try not to take things too personally.
Indulge a little in an Irish cream on the rocks, and see where the festive mood takes you.
